Random Rebecca Rants

JUDGEMENTAL MEN, DOUBLE STANDARDS, AND A DRESS

So double standards. Society's patriarchal way of establishing differing rules for each gender due to our own dogmas established within a culture. If you think back to your childhood I'm sure you can recall the upbringing boys had versus girls. Girls, being typically taught to keep clean, quiet and well mannered, have been conditioned to understand that femininity is achieved if you are small, dolled up and virtuous. Boys, expected to play rough, be outspoken and have a competitive spirit, are "supposed to'' achieved masculinity by their physique, career and sex drive. While these ideas are challenged, they still are put into consideration when dealing with controversial ideas of respect, modesty and decency.
Last weekend I engaged in a pointless argument over this topic via twitter, the place where many young adults express their vanities, deep thoughts and sexual desires. The "gentlemen" (as he called himself) that I was arguing with refers to himself as "pussyaddictasseater". Yea I know, and the kicker is that we were arguing about a woman's dress. Here's a link to the picture of the dress: C:\Users\rebecca\AppData\Local\Packages\microsoft.windowscommunicationsapps_8wekyb3d8bbwe\LocalState\LiveComm\5952448f63d0d1e7\120712-0049\Att\200003f9\photo.JPG

Take a look for yourself . Personally I wouldn't wear it, but being that a fully grown, conscious woman put this on and was comfortable, than that's all that essentially matters. She's wore it, not me.
However, Pussyaddictasseater felt the need to post her picture and tweet "ladies what do y'all think of this? Honestly I find it disgusting and she deserves whatever (paraphrase paraphrase) tonight." I reply "I'd never wear it but she likes it so aye". He was shocked that I and other women were ok with the dress and shamed us. This is when I "go in" but ultimately we're on two extremes of opposite ends.

Pussyaddictasseater felt that because of what Stephsdope was wearing, she no longer has a right to her body. He feels she is clearly inviting all and any to violate. Pussyaddictasseater felt his twitter handle was not in anyway objectifying women and went on to say he's not a jerk because he does not go around grabbing asses and hollering at women (well kudos to him for not committing harassment and assault crimes regularly, what a law abiding citizen).

I kept rebutting that respect isn't measured in means of what one wears.  Let's keep in mind it's the weekend when she's wearing this dress. Do we know where she is headed to? Not at all. Her outfit may have fit right in where she was spending her time that evening, let me reiterate: it was the weekend. He tried to label her an unrespectable woman like men feel privileged to do. He doesn't know her at all and is bashing her via social media and that's unacceptable.

This whole situation was the double standard still thriving because a man with a disgusting twitter name; I mean his name literally breaks down the woman to a mere tool, parts of the body that is meant only for pleasure with his use of them, is sitting on a high horse looking down on a woman wearing a revealing dress. So he is allowed to be a sexual promiscuous being but she cannot? Bull.  And that argument was especially disappointing because he really could not see how double sided he was. I'm just tired of people judging others for doing the same things they do.

 I just thought I'd share on how blinded the society still is to these stigmas that basically define what a woman shold be through  man's eyes. He's not ok with it so it shouldn't be worn? Yea um no. We woman have our own minds to make up what we approve of and StephDope did so just like woman who wear outfits that cover them up more; modesty is so subjective it's no one's place to say what she wore crosses the line, if there still even is one to cross. So women wear what you like and don't allow yourselves to be subject to the male objectification, especially if that male's twitter name is "pussyaddictasseater".