So the past couple of weeks I've been more social than usual. I've come across many new folks, and new situations. I've also spent more time than usual with the acquaintances in my life. While I love having a social life and connecting with others, I also am weary of people I come across and the energy they carry. I know this may be an eye roller for some folks, but I really believe there's an energy we carry and emit into others and into our surroundings. This is why I have to check mine after being around so many different energies. People carry heavy, negative, and just conflicted energy at times. And I want to be sure I keep my energy high, positive, loving and inviting. There have been moments I knew something was off, so I just want to flesh out how to be cautious and decipher when it's time to take a step back.
When I'm on the scene I optimize my fun; I love enjoying myself while out. People tend to be so hilarious and animated, full of personality and just overall interesting. This is New York for crying out loud, there are so many characters that are just so vivacious and I really do love interacting with them. However, as we come with all of us, they come with all of them and our energies intercede into each other. As they begin to intertwine, that allows the risk of throwing off our natural defenses and inclinations to situations. You never know what someone is carrying with them and it many times is something you don't need rubbing off on you.
A perfect example is when you're around a bunch of folks who are very hype, outgoing, and bring a lot of public attention to themselves. When I hang out with folks like this I am typically laughing to the point of split sides, more likely to have word vomit, and more willing to be a little obnoxious in public. While all this can be harmless fun, a negative part about being around a group like this is that I am way more reactionary than responsive. If one of them starts to turn the harmless fun into an issue or conjure up drama, I may not see that in the moment. I become more willing to give attention to petty or immature situations than they deserve and I end up feeling weak afterwards.
This is not to say the folks you surround yourself with are to blame. We are always in control of our actions and behaviors, but there is something to be said about how we change and get pulled into others' energies. These are the things I don't like and don't wish to internalize; so once I realize I've been acting unseemly, I know it's time to break away from certain situations.
There are also the energy of discourage; I don't want to be too specific, but there's always clear signs someone isn't sticking around you for the right reasons. They don't care about your well being and may be using you for entertainment, gossip, opportunism or whatever. I've told my little sisters for years to nip those relationships in the butt and estrange them. Yet at times I myself engage with such folks. I have to be as bold as I want my sister to be and excommunicate those jerks in my life because I don't need anyone's bad vibes. Life is already too hard and troubling to willingly put yourself in situations that make you feel bad about yourself. The people around you and the energy they carry should allow you to feel safe and more so uplifted.
When it comes down to it, the different vibes and auroras others bring around you will effect you. That's why it's so important to ensure your surrounded by good company. Whoever said "watch the company you keep" said it exactly right. When I feel mine is off the first thing I do is self evaluate what or who has me feeling some type of way. Once I've reached a realization I separate myself from the issue and pray for healing.
There has been actual damage done to my body from messing up my energy, such as anger, anxiety, depressing, etc. When I'm in any of those states I become stagnant and even gluttonous. We have to acknowledge the effects people have over us. However, I am much stronger than any of this. I just know when things don't feel right and life has been a little unordinary, something along that path threw me off and I must recollect.
So please just be careful about who you engage with and allow into not only your life but your space. Someone from so long ago can still affect you and you may not understand why. After all these days, months, years why is this person or event still making me sad or mad? It's because you never allowed yourself to heal from whatever wronging they've done to your health. So find whatever practice worlds for you to self check and recover. You'll definitely have a stronger energy and be the one rubbing off your positive shine!
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