Last week was my birthday! Coming up to another year of life will always have me lit and feeling blessed. While I can't be down during birthday turn up time, I do admit I was pretty bummed my plans to visit California flopped. I should have been on The Price Is Right winning a car! But alas, my pockets decided not this go around boo, leaving me local for my special day! But like I said, it's my birthday! It's a great time, a moment rather, celebrating. It really doesn't matter what I'm doing that day, no one can bring me down. So I spent the day part at work, and people tried to bring me down.
Those people who try to bring me down, I tried calling them misguided or traumatized. But it's time I call them what they are: haters. I'm not nice or good, but I am decent and respectful. There is no real reason not to like me, give me a hard time, or try to shade me. So when I come across people who do I now realized it is because they hate on me.
At this moment in my life I feel confident and ready! Things are starting to work in my favor and life is just good. So it is not completely shocking that I have haters, but it is annoying. There is a fine line between being an unbothered person, and being a doormat. When it comes to harassment I tend to ignore it. The situation is beneath me and there is no fruitful reason for engagement. Still, there are just situations you cannot walk away from; because then people will take you as weak, believing they can act however they want with you. They will push it to the next extreme until they've done something completely uncalled for. You have to stand up for yourself, address the issue and nip it in the butt.
So at work things are going great in every aspect aside from my two haters. They were cordial and conversational before but for whatever reason started to take shots at me. It was petty at first like undermining my work or laughing at me. Then it became talking to me disrespectfully and avoiding job duties if it required me. During all this there were plenty of moments for me to stop the bad behavior. Yet I allowed things to continue.
Without spilling too much tea I will just say one of the ladies took it too far. She did something dirty and when I asked her about it she acted like it wasn't a big deal. The other lady laughed. Haters. This all on my birthday! These haters also knew it was my birthday, since they signed the birthday card the job passed around. At that moment I realized that this miserable woman wanted to attack me; this was her attack on me. I also knew it was time to end this silly drama because had it not been my birthday, she may have gotten the reaction she wanted and I may have messed up all my growth at my job. However the lord works in mysterious ways and I let it go that day.
The thing about telling someone off is that the longer you wait, the less of a sting your words have. This will discourage you from taking to them, from addressing the mess. Don't let it! Whenever you get the next chance (with a clear head) look them in their eyes and ask them "what's up?" The woman gave the same lame excuse from prior, so I just told her don't do it again and she didn't reply. She really didn't have to as long as she got my point.
It's annoying having to address haters. It's bothersome knowing they got to you. But it isn't your fault they are tactfully trying to test you. If you ignore it, it won't stop until it gets out of hand. With another year under my belt. I've realized conflict isn't that big a deal. The bigger issue is allowing people to treat you poorly. Where I work is a space I inhabit frequently. More than any other space, even my home. So I cannot just let someone hate on me and ignore it.
So my birthday week was phenomenal; I have great family and friends. I stayed up and out too many nights. I ate and drank. It was great and nobody can stop me! I'll continue to be team unbothered but you'll certainly know I'll bother to stand up for me!
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